Better is open rebuke
than hidden love.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.
Frankness is a virtue little known in these post-modern times. In our desire to appear to be tolerant of the diverse ideas and opinions that circulate freely everywhere, we make the mistake of being silent when we should not and speak out when it is not convenient. We always seek to be overly careful when we say something, but we do it more for fear of hurting somebody’s feelings than for trying to be honest and concise. Jewish writer and biographer André Maurois said: “To be honest, do not say everything you think, neither say the opposite of what you think.” Frankness is closely linked to love. We know that perfect love casts out fear. So if we are not being honest with the people around us, we are letting fear overcome us and we are not acting as we should, that is, with love. The opposite of frankness and sincerity is hypocrisy and falsehood, both despicable things.
Let our thoughts and our actions be controlled by the Holy Spirit of God and we will see how we shall be invested with the courage to speak openly and honestly to others. Also, let us take care not to be rude and disrespectful to others because we will slip into abuse and aggression. It is possible that our words, even if carefully chosen, will not be taken well when we say them, but soon we will see how the person to whom they were addressed will appreciate what we have communicated to him. Gradually we will learn how to control this annoying but fleeting embarrassment that keeps us from speaking and acting with the frankness that we ought. To God alone be the glory!