A gossip betrays a confidence,
but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.
Gossip is the result of combining two major defects, which are pride and envy. He who engages in gossip is dedicated to his despicable trade motivated by his pride. He considers himself superior to all others and if he finds someone who is better person than him, he immediately dedicates to disqualify the other, spreading all over the place truths and lies, secrets and fabrications, and anything that will cause damage. He who loves to gossip is also encouraged by the envy that is always gnawing at his heart. He can not accept that someone else has more credibility and prestige that him, or that someone else is more respected by all. For such a person the virtues of others are like a slap to his ego. Always beware oh him who brings gossip to you because that person will also disclose to others the issues you consider should be kept private or be considered a secret.
Discretion is a noble virtue that makes his possessor and user to be considered a person reliable and worthy of friendship. Discretion is hard to find. Its two major opponents, envy and pride, are in control of the lives of many who prefer to be guided by their own passions than by the Holy Spirit. Discretion may be exercised only when the person has self-control and we know how spiritually immature is the vast majority of the human race. Where there is gossip there can be no love . My loving mother in law always says: “He who loves, pays heed.” Let us beware, therefore, of giving free rein to our tongue. Remember the saying: “Silence is golden.” Let’s be discrete and we will be a good friend indeed. Only to God be the glory!
Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
Every day I bless God for giving me an exemplary wife. In fact there are few people who can make this claim, not because their wives ares not exemplary but because in general husbands fail to appreciate what God has given them. In the Latino environment, Latin in the broad and true sense of the word, ie all those people whose language comes from the Latin of the Romans, and also in the Anglo-Saxon culture, is very common for men to hold the view that a good woman is one that quietly accepts all the verbal and physical abuse and infidelities committed by the husband; degrading the wife to the level of a beast of burden. For Latino men an exemplary woman is one who identifies with that song from the Colombian singer Shakira, “Blind, deaf and dumb.” This wrong perception of the qualities of the female partner is the cause of innumerable conflicts and disagreements that end up eroding the unity of marriage and its stability over time.
Husbands, I recommend that you take a short time of your busy life to stop and assess the blessing God has granted you through your wives. Like King Lemuel ─another nome de plume of King Solomon, make a list of all the virtues that you can see in your wife and please do not do this hastily but with the hand on your heart and taking all the time that need be. I am sure that after completing the list you will be pleasantly surprised by the accumulation of virtues that your wife owns and which you probably had not appreciated before as a whole. Then give thanks to God and to your wife for being always by your side. Remember that marriage implies that the two of you become one flesh and that together with the help of the main column of your marriage which is Christ the Lord you two build the house that will not fall despite the winds, rains and floods because the house has been built on the rock that is Christ. Only to God be the glory!
Do not envy the violent
or choose any of their ways.
For the LORD detests the perverse
but takes the upright into his confidence.
One of the things that the world has been very successful at is the glorification of the anti-values. It is not surprising to see how humanity in general is rampant in a suicidal career to accumulate goods and money as if it were the demonstration of having achieved success in their lives. Slowly but surely, the world moves from an ambiguous postmodernism to a rather clear inversionism where everything good is replaced by what until now had been considered unworthy. Where postmodernism tried to expand the possibilities to reach God in various ways (something impossible to do by any way by the way) inversionism intends to establish atheism as the truth. The arts, especially music, have taken paths of chaos and bad taste that our young people absorb as the most sublime. Peace is replaced with violence manifested in the rise of drug trafficking, wars and killings. I often wonder if the increase in drug trafficking that is observed in some Latin American countries is not a component of the vaunted asymmetric warfare whose aim would be to saturate the market with abundant supply of drugs to destroy the society of the United States from the inside.
Look around you. The current culture is materialistic, selfish, epicurean, focused on the immediate, always in search for the grotesque and confrontational. Those who think that in this manner they are going to achieve peace, security and progress are totally wrong. Let us not be drawn into the world and its empty promises. There is no greater treasure than to count on the good will of God. The trials and persecutions will allow us to refine our character so all we need is to have an ever stronger relationship with the Lord Jesus. With our spirit transformed and aligned with the Spirit of God we can advance through any trial or difficulty. To God alone be the glory!
A gossip betrays a confidence;
so avoid anyone who talks too much.
We all need to communicate with each other. To a greater or lesser extent we all need to express ourselves and be heard by others. When someone pays genuine attention to what we are saying we feel honored and useful as we share with others a little bit of ourselves. Now, some people take this need to communicate to pathological and unbearable extremes. These are people whose only aim in life is to talk (usually about themselves) without stopping and without caring whether they are being heard or not. Of course they think others are paying attention and are very interested in knowing what they have to say, even if it is not true, and that’s why they never stop talking mostly inconsistencies. Many of them, having no other subject of conversation dedicate themselves to exposing personal information about other people, most likely something which is not in the public domain. The elements of secrecy and mystery add a little excitement to the subject being shared and the natural curiosity of those who are receiving the message above is conjugated to form an explosive mixture. Just as the Athenians and foreigners living in Athens attended the Areopagus to expend the time doing nothing but listening to and discussing the latest news, today people are guided by their carnal nature to find out about every gossip and news going around them and if they find someone like the people described above, the conditions are perfect for gossip and hearsay.
We should avoid this type of people and we should always stay away from them. A gossip rotten apple soon spoils the whole barrel. The apostle Paul exhorted us to always make our conversation pleasant and tasteful so no there is no room for gossip and backbiting. If someone likes to talk, let him speak of Christ and sparingly to avoid exhausting the patience of others. If anyone wants to come to tarnish our hearts with private information from others, let us pay no heed to their message and let us put a stop to those engaged in such a shameful activity. With our minds focused on our Lord Jesus Christ we will enjoy the peace and harmony that should exist between brothers. To God alone be the glory!
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If you take your neighbor to court,
do not betray another’s confidence,
or the one who hears it may shame you
and the charge against you will stand.
When people go to court seeking justice, they ─and this applies for both parties ─ typically lie in order to strengthen their case. Soon, the truth of the matter is obscured by the number of inaccuracies that are put forward by both sides. Worse still, some folks are capable of breaking confidentiality agreements to increase their chances of success at the expense of the confidant. Nothing good can come out of saving one’s reputation at the expense of somebody else’s shoes specially at the expense of someone who has put his/her trust in you. Now, the selfish and sinful nature everybody has may prove to be more powerful than good intentions and will usually end up leading us to do what we should not do; unless, of course, a power stronger than sin stands in its way and prevents the wrong action from taking place.
As children of God all we have to say is a simple “Yes” or “No.” Violating this principle will only destroy our witness. Let us always stay close to the truth and we will remain focused on the path that God has set for each one of us. Our Lord Jesus Christ is the truth and acting in a honest manner at all times is an indication ─even to ourselves─ that we are following in his footsteps. . To do otherwise will only damage our witness. ¡To God alone be the glory!