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High treason

Like a club or a sword or a sharp arrow
is one who gives false testimony against a neighbor.
Proverbs 25:18

The least a true friend can expect of another friend is betrayal and violence. Friendship has nothing to do, and in fact is opposed to these two destructive actions. Friendship has everything to do with trust and common interests and purposes. Friendship is always surrounded by affection and good will. And last but not least, love is an essential part of a friendly relationship. When one voluntarily discards the principles of friendship to turn against a friend through treachery one is committing a heinous act. Betrayal is so evil that often accompanied with lies which makes it even deadlier. We’ve all been victims of a betrayal at some point in our lives and therefore know well how painful this experience can be. The Lord Jesus suffered betrayal by a member of his select group of apostles and although he knew what was going to happen it did not fail to prove a painful situation.

Let us always look for the good of others and let us put the interests of our friends above ours. In this way we will ensure that we will not damage the friendly relationship with which the Lord has blessed our lives. Wise King Solomon said that he  “there is a friend who sticks closer than a brother” and “a friend loves at all times.” So let us cultivate friendships and be aware of all those things that can damage the relationship so we can maintain it for a long, long time. The Lord Jesus said that we are his friends if we do what he commands us. Let us always obey God and we will nurture the best and sweetest friendship anyone can have, that with our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. To God alone be the glory!


My heart pounds, my strength fails me;
even the light has gone from my eyes.
My friends and companions avoid me because of my wounds;
my neighbors stay far away.
Those who want to kill me set their traps,
those who would harm me talk of my ruin;
all day long they scheme and lie.
Psalm 38:10-12

How many times have we seen that when we are burdened by the weight of guilt and the consequences of sin, instead of receiving help from our fellow-men what we get is contempt and hardness of heart? It only ratifies the conventional wisdom that has been described as “When the tree is fallen, every man goeth to it with his hatchet.” Nobody is willing to reach out or to express affection in these sad and difficult moments that can happen to anyone. Friends, neighbors and relatives alike are kept as far away as possible from us as if our adversity was highly contagious. This is where we see the harsh reality of the human heart, insensible and hard as flint. Some even, not content with staying away, take advantage of our misery to seek our destruction.

If everybody would apply the Golden Rule that Jesus taught us things would be quite different as we are seeing today. The Lord said, “So in everything, do to others what you would have them do to you, for this sums up the Law and the Prophets.” [1] If today we see someone whose life’s adversities have made him a shadow of what he was before, let us consider in our hearts how we would like to be treated if we were under the same circumstances. Let our heart be like the heart of our Lord Jesus Christ who always acted out of compassion for a lost human race who had no possibility of salvation outside of putting their faith in him. To God alone be the glory!

[1] Matthew 7:12


Perfume and incense bring joy to the heart,
and the pleasantness of a friend
springs from their heartfelt advice.
Proverbs 27:9

Since ancient times it is well-known that certain stimuli produce pleasurable feelings. Nobody can deny the profound impact that music causes in both mind and body. Today’s music has become a multibillion dollar industry of which we can hardly make abstraction. Likewise flavors and the combinations of these aimed at stimulating the palate have led to the remarkable development of the culinary industry by highlighting the concept of “gourmet” as something very refined. The visual arts positively or negatively impact our sense of sight and our touch is constantly stimulated by changes in temperature or the extremes swings of it. Finally, the sense of smell and our ability to associate certain aromas with different moods has led to the equally successful perfume industry and with markedly less success ─no wonder─ to the alternative medicine of aromatherapy. Certain fragrances produce a state of great comfort and hence a great price has to paid to acquire and enjoy them, even though many of these smells are freely available in nature.

Likewise, friendship is something truly pleasant to the mind. Our friends are a constant source of joy and support, especially when circumstances become adverse. In the same way that certain perfumes are a sweet fragrance to our smell, the relationship with our friends produce a highly positive effect on our hearts. Let us, therefore, have many friends at all times and let us act as the friends we are. Remember that our Lord said: “I no longer call you servants, because a servant does not know his master’s business. Instead, I have called you friends, for everything that I learned from my Father I have made known to you.” [1] But to be a friend of Jesus we must be obedient: “You are my friends if you do what I command.” [2] So with obedient hearts let us share God’s love with our friends at all times . To God alone be the glory!

[1] John 15:15
[2] John 15:14

Today’s word 2-27-2011

Better is open rebuke
than hidden love.
Wounds from a friend can be trusted,
but an enemy multiplies kisses.
Proverbs 27:5-6

Here we have two fundamental aspects of human relationships, honesty and trust. These two aspects are closely intertwined and without one there cannot be much of the other. Now, what is most commonly seen in personal interactions is the opposite of these two behaviors. Typically, we see how people treat one another with dishonesty and mistrust. The dishonesty comes from our sinful and carnal nature and also from the seed of lying that the enemy has planted in our minds. Many times we conceal our true feelings to pretend that all is well in a relationship. This is but a lie disguised as tolerance that eventually becomes unmanageable and ends up in an outburst of incalculable consequences. Mistrust stems from our own experiences and the methods used by our parents to bring us up. We were taught to be individualistic, not to trust each other because our merits could be stolen, etc.

The solution is not, of course, to trust everyone or to say to anybody the first thing that goes through our minds. As rational beings, we must act with caution and be careful not to offend the sensibilities of others. You have to express your feelings, but you must know how to mention a concern and when to mention it. We must not keep in our heart disagreements and misunderstandings, especially among friends. When these things are accumulated, they end up becoming a bitter root. Let us seek the solution in the transforming power of Christ, who teaches us how to act properly with our neighbor. Let us seek support in the loving arms of our Lord and let us be transformed by the renewing of our mind under the power of God. To God alone be the glory!