A gossip betrays a confidence,
but a trustworthy person keeps a secret.
Gossip is the result of combining two major defects, which are pride and envy. He who engages in gossip is dedicated to his despicable trade motivated by his pride. He considers himself superior to all others and if he finds someone who is better person than him, he immediately dedicates to disqualify the other, spreading all over the place truths and lies, secrets and fabrications, and anything that will cause damage. He who loves to gossip is also encouraged by the envy that is always gnawing at his heart. He can not accept that someone else has more credibility and prestige that him, or that someone else is more respected by all. For such a person the virtues of others are like a slap to his ego. Always beware oh him who brings gossip to you because that person will also disclose to others the issues you consider should be kept private or be considered a secret.
Discretion is a noble virtue that makes his possessor and user to be considered a person reliable and worthy of friendship. Discretion is hard to find. Its two major opponents, envy and pride, are in control of the lives of many who prefer to be guided by their own passions than by the Holy Spirit. Discretion may be exercised only when the person has self-control and we know how spiritually immature is the vast majority of the human race. Where there is gossip there can be no love . My loving mother in law always says: “He who loves, pays heed.” Let us beware, therefore, of giving free rein to our tongue. Remember the saying: “Silence is golden.” Let’s be discrete and we will be a good friend indeed. Only to God be the glory!
The words of a gossip are like choice morsels;
they go down to the inmost parts.
It is unfortunate that many people think that gossiping is harmless entertainment. On the contrary, many conflicts and disputes have arisen because of the widespread practice of gossip. Some people have even made of gossiping their trade and profession. This practice is so prevalent that show characters have been created to produce laughter from the dire situations that the nefarious trade generates. An example of this is the Spanish comedian Jose Mota with his character’s La Vieja’l Visillo, an elderly woman from a village in Spain called Alcafrán, whose only job is to make people fight because of the rumors that the old lady invents and disseminates just to have fun. The sketch shows that the problem is not gossip itself, but lending an ear to gossip. Our sinful nature makes us consider gossip as interesting and entertaining and we do not realize the immense damage it causes. Below, please find a link so you can see the sketch.
Gossip may be funny but in reality it is nothing more than a curse. James, the brother of the Lord Jesus, wrote: “So also the tongue is a small part of the body, but it makes great boasts. Imagine what a great forest is set aflame by such a small spark” When we open our mouth we either bless or curse. The gossip is nothing but a curse because a blessing it is not. Let us beware of becoming instruments for the enemy by carrying gossip and let us not allow it to gain power and ground by lending our ears to it. Although gossip may look like something attractive, it is pure poison to our souls. Only the Holy Spirit of God should control our lives. To God alone be the glory!
A gossip betrays a confidence;
so avoid anyone who talks too much.
We all need to communicate with each other. To a greater or lesser extent we all need to express ourselves and be heard by others. When someone pays genuine attention to what we are saying we feel honored and useful as we share with others a little bit of ourselves. Now, some people take this need to communicate to pathological and unbearable extremes. These are people whose only aim in life is to talk (usually about themselves) without stopping and without caring whether they are being heard or not. Of course they think others are paying attention and are very interested in knowing what they have to say, even if it is not true, and that’s why they never stop talking mostly inconsistencies. Many of them, having no other subject of conversation dedicate themselves to exposing personal information about other people, most likely something which is not in the public domain. The elements of secrecy and mystery add a little excitement to the subject being shared and the natural curiosity of those who are receiving the message above is conjugated to form an explosive mixture. Just as the Athenians and foreigners living in Athens attended the Areopagus to expend the time doing nothing but listening to and discussing the latest news, today people are guided by their carnal nature to find out about every gossip and news going around them and if they find someone like the people described above, the conditions are perfect for gossip and hearsay.
We should avoid this type of people and we should always stay away from them. A gossip rotten apple soon spoils the whole barrel. The apostle Paul exhorted us to always make our conversation pleasant and tasteful so no there is no room for gossip and backbiting. If someone likes to talk, let him speak of Christ and sparingly to avoid exhausting the patience of others. If anyone wants to come to tarnish our hearts with private information from others, let us pay no heed to their message and let us put a stop to those engaged in such a shameful activity. With our minds focused on our Lord Jesus Christ we will enjoy the peace and harmony that should exist between brothers. To God alone be the glory!
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